Divorce & Family Lawyers Pymble

Doolan Wagner Family Lawyers have put together these suggestions to help you navigate this uncertain time with your children.

They have supported many families from Pymble on Sydney’s North Shore and are specialists in negotiating co-parenting plans.

Let’s be honest, all parents want their children to be safe and feel confident.

But when parents break up and are juggling their own emotions, it becomes difficult to maintain a reassuring home environment for children.

There is so much change and complexity during this time, it’s natural for children to feel uncertain and worry. It’s a huge life change.

To navigate this journey, you will need a dependable family law team local to Pymble. Doolan Wagner Family Lawyers are well known family law specialists on Sydney’s North Shore & Pymble.

They can answer your queries over the phone, or you can visit them in St Leonards, only 15 mins from Pymble. View some testimonials of happy clients here.

These simple suggestions will help you to support your children.

Communicate clearly

Of course, when a relationship breaks down the way you communicate with your ex-partner can be negative. But while you are untangling your lives from each other, the children’s lives continue as normal. To reduce the risk of arguments in front of the children, address communication early with your ex-partner and aim for your interactions to be clear and calm.

Set simple guidelines to keep conversations positive and avoid nasty comments to or about each other. Agree that some topics of conversations are problematic and will be off limits.

Remember it’s ok to say: Let’s talk about this later (without the kids). It gives you time to breath. Calm conversations between you both will help to stabilise the children and protect them from unnecessary stress.

But heated conversations can be unavoidable. Consider switching to written emails or text messages instead. This will give you some time to have a composed response. Be brief and succinct. Written correspondence can be used as evidence later, so avoid contentious banter. If you’re unsure, ask a friend or lawyer to read it before you hit send.

Be equally mindful of clear communication with the children.

Unless it’s about logistics, eliminate any chat about your ex-partner (and any eye rolling!). Animosity will confuse children and they do pick up on every behaviour. Plan important conversations in simple language and leave lots of time for questions.

Set their expectations up ahead of time, so they are clear about where they will live and who will be there for them. Don’t linger on a big issue, try to return to normal conversations as soon as you can, it will make it easier for children to adjust.

Distraction can be a good idea too.

Perhaps a new weekend activity to do together, something that will lighten the mood. Perhaps you could explore Pymble’s local bush walks together or go further afield to find a coastal walk on Sydney’s North Shore. Switch it up, if those teens are resisting any conversations with you, ask a family friend to check in on them.

Plan co-parenting

Good communication will help you to plan co-parenting arrangements. When the plan is complicated, tensions rise, and the children get confused. Keep the plan simple.

Remember if you’re married, you will need to be separated for 1 year before a divorce is finalised. If you are in a de-facto relationship you have up to 2 after your separation to settle the matter. For children this can feel like forever. A sustainable schedule is a workable one, and everyone will find routine.

There are some basic truths for a co-parenting plan to be workable. Firstly, it must serve the best interest of the children. While it may be hard to arrange, children have the right to access the people they love and who love them, including ex-partners and grandparents. Secondly, a co-parenting plan is a shared responsibility of each parent. Think carefully about the logistics, clarify it in writing and stick to the schedule.

Lastly, co-parenting may sound easier if both parents are living under the same roof but seek guidance before you commit to this. You will need specific evidence that proves you’re living as individuals, not a couple.

Seek support quickly if co-parenting becomes unworkable.

The Principal of Doolan Wagner Family Lawyers, Lisa Wagner is a registered Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner and an Accredited Family Law Specialist for the past 10 years. She has almost 30 years experience in family law. She’ll be able to negotiate, mediate or litigate a co-parenting agreement for you. Lisa can answer your queries over the phone or you can meet the team in St Leonards.

See Lisa’s LinkedIn Profile.

A simple co-parenting plan is ideal, it is easier for the children to understand, lessens the mundane discussion about logistics between you both and avoids friction.

Be kind to yourself

If you’re composed the children will be more relaxed. Acknowledge this will be a difficult time for you personally and stress levels will rise. By looking after yourself you will make good decisions as a parent and for your future.

Staying active will ease the stress, create thinking time, and guarantee a good night’s sleep. Keep it simple with a quick walk to unwind each day. And it may sound obvious but remember to eat well. Keep it nutritious and balanced. By looking after yourself you will cope with the extra stress and feel more in control.

Seek professional guidance

For parents, separation or divorce can be overwhelming, so seek support early. If they’re local lawyers to Pymble it will be easier for you too.

Doolan Wagner Family Lawyers will guide you through the intricate legal process and facilitate a hassle-free settlement for you. They are well known on Sydney’s North Shore for caring for their clients. When you meet with them, they will:

  • Methodically review your case
  • Present an assessment of all relevant scenarios for you
  • Discuss the options available, and
  • Provide you with realistic advice at every stage.

Doolan Wagner Family Lawyers are only 15 mins from Pymble. Their professionalism and sensitivity will keep you on track to finalising your legal separation or divorce.

These posts are only intended as an overview or comment on current issues that may interest you and are not legal advice. If there are any matters that you would like us to advise you on, then please contact us.

Family Lawyers Pymble FAQ’s

Divorce Lawyers Northern Beaches, Manly, Balgowlah & Forestville

Are you thinking of separating and want to know where you stand?  Separated and wanting to know what your rights are?  Looking for the best family law representation a stone’s throw away or in a convenient location?

If you are separating, separated or thinking of separating and want easy to understand information from a specialist family law firm, then read on.

Doolan Wagner Family Lawyers provide expert divorce and family law advice and assistant to people on Sydney Northern Beaches including Manly, Balgowlah & Forestville.

Looking for an accredited family law specialist on the Northern Beaches?

Doolan Wagner Family Lawyers are trusted family law solicitors you can rely on.  For close to three decades our lawyers have been assisting people in Sydney’s North Northern Beaches, Manly, Bowgowlah & Forestville with their family law matters.

Our family lawyers expertise and skills are recognised by The Law Society of New South Wales through its Accredited Specialist Scheme.

Our Services

We are expertly placed to assist you in relation to all family law matters including:

  • Property Settlements
  • Divorce
  • De-facto relationship matters
  • Parenting matters
  • Spouse maintenance
  • Same-sex relationship matters
  • Child support
  • Mediation
  • Collaborative Law
  • Strong court representation

Why Choose Doolan Wagner?

Engaging a lawyer can be a daunting step.

You may be worried about their fees.  Uncertain that you will be treated as “just another case” or that they simply won’t understand all the issues that are important to you.

These feelings are normal.  In fact, thinking this way is to be expected especially when so much is at stake.

We understand this.

To us, you matter.

Our principal Lisa Wagner is an accredited family law specialist and has been looking after separating couples and helping them achieve good outcomes for nearly 30 years.

Lisa and the team at Doolan Wagner understand the issues that you face.  We are aware that Manly and its surrounding areas of Balgowlah, Forestville, Collaroy and neighbouring suburbs reflect a changing demographic.

We have assisted young couples to manage their separation, the payment of private school fees for their children into the future.  We have assisted in separating couples of teenage children identify appropriate parenting arrangements and secure flexible parenting plans that will work for them now and down the track. Lisa believes in what she does and as a result, you can trust that we will do for you what we say we will do.

If you are looking for a supportive, accessible and easy to understand family lawyer then we are right for you.

We will not make promises that we cannot stick to.  We will, however:

  1. Answer all your questions
  2. Have the time to “reality test” your options
  3. Clearly explain to you each alternative as it arises
  4. Be pro-active in securing the earliest and the best settlement for you
  5. Talk in plain English
  6. Be transparent with our charges

In brief, we commit to deliver every one of our clients a quality and professional service which is personal and real.

Our family law team is small and close-knit.  Each of our lawyers is specially trained.  They also hold degrees in associated disciplines such as psychology, economics and education, as well as their legal training.  In addition, many of our team either have completed a Masters Degree in Family Law or are currently undertaking Masters courses of study.  Family law is a vocation for our professional staff and not just a job.

Additionally, we have dispute resolution practitioners and lawyers also trained in collaborative family law practice.  We have a breadth and depth of experience that we employ each day to benefit you.

We can quickly get to the heart of the matter and not waste your time and money on the issues that don’t count.  Located in St Leonards on Sydney’s lower north shore we are in close proximity to Sydney’s northern beaches and Sydney’s north shore.  A simple 20-minute car drive from Manly, Balgowlah and Forestville.

We offer the added benefit of anonymity.  Engaging a lawyer outside the suburb where you live or work ensures that your privacy is protected.

So where to from here?

If you are wanting to know where you stand?  or  If you are truly contemplating separation?

If your spouse has walked out or you are thinking of leaving the home or if you have separated and now need to get things sorted then take the next step…

We offer an obligation-free confidential consultation at short notice and outside of business hours if required.  We can take the hassle out of the situation you are facing and make it easier.  That we can guarantee.

If you have recently separated or have a Family Law enquiry, please contact us on (02) 9437 0010 or enquiries@familylawyersdw.com.au to discuss your matter in complete confidence. We have a team of experienced and caring professional family lawyers available to help you in this difficult time.

These posts are only intended as an overview or comment on current issues that may interest you and are not legal advice. If there are any matters that you would like us to advise you on, then please contact us.